Time is a great Healer – Not for Some

I sat here this afternoon and two people came into my mind who have recently lost a close relative to the Spirit World, both of them their fathers. I empathised in my own mind about how it feels to lose your dad, but I know also from my work that it is different for everyone. We all experience loss differently and there is no right or wrong way.

I know myself the pain of losing someone close to the Spirit World, I lost my dad when I was sixteen years old and it changed my life forever. I am not an expert in grief and grieving. Through my work I try to help people with their grief by allowing their loved ones to communicate from the Spirit World. This by its very nature often gives some level of healing, somehow touching so deep that it just helps in some unquantifiable way in that moment. Just ask people who have had a good communication from the Spirit World and they will confirm that it does. It gives us hope and reassurance that there is no death, that our soul continues with its journey and our loved ones are still there guiding and helping us along our way.

But you know, “nothing takes the pain away when someone close to us dies”

The pain and sorrow we feel when someone close passes over, can last a lifetime. It will never be the same again. Dad will never be sat in that chair again, never be in his garden tending his flowers, never be in his garage fixing the car, never be out walking the dog. This is the bit we miss, the physical aspect of them just being there in the flesh. Being able to have a hug, just sitting having a cup of tea together, having them take us down the aisle and then helping us through our divorce!! We grieve for ourselves, that we won’t have them there for us and that we have lost a part of ourselves in this thing called death.

So I make no claims that communicating with the Spirit World feels the same as having our dad really there, or anyone else we have lost for that matter. It doesn’t and it never will. Yes, we are able to feel their energy, feel their character, see clairvoyantly their memories and have a chat from the other side of life at that particular time which is absolutely incredible. I still marvel at the joy that communication brings. However, it just isn’t the same …………….some may disagree, that’s OK.

We come to this earth to experience our physicality, to be able to laugh, cry tears, feel a hug and plant a huge kiss on someone’s lips. That’s what we miss when they go, them actually being here in their body. All the spirit communication in the world doesn’t bring them back and that’s what hurts the most and leaves an ache within. It’s not even as if they have just gone away for a short time and will be back at the weekend to catch up, it is the inevitable finality that really cuts deep.

My work as a medium allows me to help lots of people along their path of grieving and I feel privileged and honoured to have done so. I believe in sincerity that it helps but it can never really heal the deep wounds of bereavement.

“Time is a great healer” they say, not for some